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Because. There are a lot of things that change once you go through a divorce. And yes, it’s emotional. But, if you give yourself time to heal… Avoid playing the victim or pointing the finger at who’s to blame.. You will find clarity and if you have kids together you will learn that they are always at the forefront.. I will never say it is easy, but it does become “easier” with time and work… And when one of you calls and says, “Hey, I’m stranded I think my battery is dead…I don’t know what to do…” You do the...

IDK to a Doer. That was me…no lies. My answer to most things was “I don’t know”. It was the easier route for someone not looking to grow. Why try when I can hire someone? The problem with that is two things… One, that attitude starts to spread to most things in your life (and you end up never trying) And two, I never had the money to pay someone so things would just sit there. I jeopardized a lot in my life early on because I wasn’t a “Doer”. When I became a father I realized if I’m gonna...

Right Here.I sat in my car the other day early in the morning.Had my cup of coffee and watched this man feed these birds with a smile on his face.I couldn’t help but snap this photo.After I took the photo, I sat there and thought to myself…”Right Here”I want this level of peace, Right Here.If whatever I got going on in my life is not going to lead me to this level of peace Right Here…I don’t want it.I don’t want a job that is not my passion that I look fwd to everyday.I don’t want friends who are not...

We often go through life wondering what our purpose is.-Some of us find out real quick what we were put here on God’s green earth to do.-Others (like myself), it takes a while.-I’ve tried to force so many things in my life I’ve lost count.-Then I heard someone say, “the thing you do with ease…the thing that takes you next to no effort; that’s your purpose…”-I love coaching & mentoring so much…probably more than most of you reading this know.-When I was at my lowest point in my life, it was kids that helped bring me back.-Mentoring and Coaching kids…-It...

Imagine a life without love.-There could be no life lonelier.-I use to think the love I needed to be happy was from a woman.-I was strongly mistaken.-There isn’t a love I’ve found stronger than the one I have for my children.-A different love of course, but a love like no other for sure.-I wake up and go to sleep alone.- I have done that for nearly 8 years now.-It’s a journey I’ve put myself on, a difficult one.-But I’ve got guidance from my savior Jesus Christ.-I have everything I need and the patience for what I want.-I’m a constant work...