Ray's Blogs RSS

Freeze FrameOften times I wish I could freeze the moment because it’s perfect; especially with a photo like this…I know one day not too long from now, holding my children like this won’t be a thingThey’ll be grown and working their way through their own journeyA journey that I hope I’ve done everything in my best capability to help prepare them forYou don’t really know love until you love someone more than yourself…and for me, that lesson came as a FatherI’ve loved a woman before but the love for a child supersedes all of thatI’ve never wanted to be the...

Fathers, your kids need you more than ever…especially your sons.-We are at war with the outside world who continues to soften up this next generation of young men.-Quit if it’s too hard, strength is toxic, it’s ok to be soft…soft is SAFE.-No, it’s not.-Safe sets you up to be a victim to a world that continues to get more and more dangerous.-I never had the example from my Father, “but” I knew what it looked like when I saw it…-When I finally saw it, I told myself…you have to become the Father, the image of the man you always needed.-So...

I have often asked myself what I wanted out of Love in my next chapterThis month made 6 years since my divorce and I can tell you one thing…My thoughts on Love and what I want have changed more times than I can countI’ve watched people go from relationship to relationship after their own divorces or break upsI’ve seen some work but most failI’ve dated…some good, some bad, some just plain ol’ whatever For the most part I’ve played it low keySo low at times that I went celibate for 13 months which was wildBut today as I was preparing...

Something about reading that took hold of me some years ago…If you’re ever around me, I promise you I have a book on me or in my carI started reading to get my mind off my life to be honestI wasn’t in a good place and reading took me away from it allI use to fall asleep anytime I picked up a bookThen I realized I was reading the wrong booksI began picking books that inspired meSome on self help then a bunch on people who destroyed their lives and bounced back even betterI bought me a small book bag...

Guess what…?My kids are gamers too, yep.They game, they rage and get upset as wellThey shut down and get quiet when a game doesn’t go as plannedOr if they catch a random headshot on Fortnite from a “random” they’re playing against…(as my son refers to as - non-friend competitor)I say that to say this…I slip up from time to time and tell him to shut it down take a break I don’t want to hear him upset…But, that usually doesn’t help; it didn’t provide him a solution, it was more me just shutting it downSo what I’ve learned and always...